Release Yourself


There are two types of guilt. Functional guilt and dysfunctional guilt Functional guilt serve the purpose, it makes you feel bad – guilty – when you have done something wrong. It urges you to do the right thing. For example if you lashed out at your coworker or spouse because you were in a badContinue reading “Release Yourself”

Emotional Dysregulation And Invalidating Environments


Emotional vulnerability is emotional sensitivity, emotional reactivity, and a slow return to emotional baseline.(Linehan 1993a) An invalidating environment is when people/parents tell you you’re wrong for experiencing your emotions. They may even punish you or ignore you when you get emotional. In some cases, people may acknowledge your emotions, but in a case where theyContinue reading “Emotional Dysregulation And Invalidating Environments”

When You Get Shunned For Being A Child And Family Relations Advocate


When you’re hated for being an advocate for children. For standing up for mental health. For standing up against poor parenting. For trying to educate parents and grown children the repercussions of certain parenting choices, past and present. I can’t help you if you think I make you feel like a shitty parent;But I canContinue reading “When You Get Shunned For Being A Child And Family Relations Advocate”

It’s Not Hard To Better Yourself; It’s Hard To Watch Others Not


One of the hardest parts I found of becoming a mother, was bettering myself. Not the act of bettering myself, but watching others who are parents, not. Becoming a parent, it was easy for me to reflect on my childhood and to know that some things when I grew up were very wrong, and thatContinue reading “It’s Not Hard To Better Yourself; It’s Hard To Watch Others Not”

The Emotional Wheel Chart For Adults And Kids


Emotions are diverse. Not only can we feel more than one thing at a time, emotions are not black and white. Sometime we struggle naming what we feel, because it’s more than just the primary emotions of “happy”, “sad”, “angry”, “tired”. When trying to identify and name your emotions to help understand and tame them,Continue reading “The Emotional Wheel Chart For Adults And Kids”

How Do You Parent Children If You Do Not Remember Your Own Childhood?


Research shows most should remember their childhood from about 4 years and up; unless your memory is suppressing negative events. The area of mental development from birth to age 3 or 4 in which children and adults cannot recall is called Childhood or Infantile Amnesia; caused by the underdevelopement of the cognitive area responsible forContinue reading “How Do You Parent Children If You Do Not Remember Your Own Childhood?”